Found 'fiance' on various dating web sites... need advice..
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Found 'fiance' on various dating web sites... need advice..
Not to post a total Oprah question here.. but seriously, don't know how to handle this shit.. have never been a cheater, never been one to get on dating sites, etc.. Always just wanted one loyal woman & that's it.. it's just my morals.. if you wanna call it that.. & up til recently I thought this girl really did love me..
Been with her close to 2 years.., in the past I noticed she got some texts from guys.. I got excuses for those & they seemed to go away.. then a bombshell about 2 months ago.. when I found hunreds upon hundreds of texts from one guy.. nothing that looked as if they'd ever been intimate though.. although pics were sent.. which was more than enough to disgust me to no end.. She swore up & down to never do it again, etc.. etc.. & in some ways changed the ways she acted.., then recently I've found out while we've been together she's been on at least 5 dating sites that I KNOW of... with profile photos taken while we've been together & text suggesting she was looking for a 'soul mate', looking for dating, marriage, etc..... one such photo was taken from a pic of us both where she cropped me out.. This shit absolutely turned by stomach & I'm real shocked & don't have much faith in her honesty anymore... other than maybe the hope that she didn't go through with hooking up with anyone completely... Although it's clear from emails she sent people she did give her # out & told guys she 'was interested' in them, etc... just insane shit.. considering I've been there for her every day for close to 2 years.. if she loved me, why the hell would she turn to these sites?? Her mother in law did warn me saying she had a sick need to be wanted & needed by as many men as possible...
I know this is sludge & don't expect any major sympathy or compasionate shit.. but I'd really appreciate any good advice as to what anyone in the same situation would do.. women or men.. I may be too close to this situation, or to in love to see it objectively.. Thanks-& yes-this really sucks.
Been with her close to 2 years.., in the past I noticed she got some texts from guys.. I got excuses for those & they seemed to go away.. then a bombshell about 2 months ago.. when I found hunreds upon hundreds of texts from one guy.. nothing that looked as if they'd ever been intimate though.. although pics were sent.. which was more than enough to disgust me to no end.. She swore up & down to never do it again, etc.. etc.. & in some ways changed the ways she acted.., then recently I've found out while we've been together she's been on at least 5 dating sites that I KNOW of... with profile photos taken while we've been together & text suggesting she was looking for a 'soul mate', looking for dating, marriage, etc..... one such photo was taken from a pic of us both where she cropped me out.. This shit absolutely turned by stomach & I'm real shocked & don't have much faith in her honesty anymore... other than maybe the hope that she didn't go through with hooking up with anyone completely... Although it's clear from emails she sent people she did give her # out & told guys she 'was interested' in them, etc... just insane shit.. considering I've been there for her every day for close to 2 years.. if she loved me, why the hell would she turn to these sites?? Her mother in law did warn me saying she had a sick need to be wanted & needed by as many men as possible...
I know this is sludge & don't expect any major sympathy or compasionate shit.. but I'd really appreciate any good advice as to what anyone in the same situation would do.. women or men.. I may be too close to this situation, or to in love to see it objectively.. Thanks-& yes-this really sucks.
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Maybe it is time for you to move on. You cannot fix her. She has issues, and you don't deserve to put up with that shit.ManOwaRrior wrote:Not to post a total Oprah question here.. but seriously, don't know how to handle this shit.. have never been a cheater, never been one to get on dating sites, etc.. Always just wanted one loyal woman & that's it.. it's just my morals.. if you wanna call it that.. & up til recently I thought this girl really did love me..
Been with her close to 2 years.., in the past I noticed she got some texts from guys.. I got excuses for those & they seemed to go away.. then a bombshell about 2 months ago.. when I found hunreds upon hundreds of texts from one guy.. nothing that looked as if they'd ever been intimate though.. although pics were sent.. which was more than enough to disgust me to no end.. She swore up & down to never do it again, etc.. etc.. & in some ways changed the ways she acted.., then recently I've found out while we've been together she's been on at least 5 dating sites that I KNOW of... with profile photos taken while we've been together & text suggesting she was looking for a 'soul mate', looking for dating, marriage, etc..... one such photo was taken from a pic of us both where she cropped me out.. This shit absolutely turned by stomach & I'm real shocked & don't have much faith in her honesty anymore... other than maybe the hope that she didn't go through with hooking up with anyone completely... Although it's clear from emails she sent people she did give her # out & told guys she 'was interested' in them, etc... just insane shit.. considering I've been there for her every day for close to 2 years.. if she loved me, why the hell would she turn to these sites?? Her mother in law did warn me saying she had a sick need to be wanted & needed by as many men as possible...
I know this is sludge & don't expect any major sympathy or compasionate shit.. but I'd really appreciate any good advice as to what anyone in the same situation would do.. women or men.. I may be too close to this situation, or to in love to see it objectively.. Thanks-& yes-this really sucks.
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Continue to "date" her but lighten the load by seeing other people too. And be honest about having others in your life. Don't flaunt it, but, don't hide it. You'll be surprised how little it will hurt once you get yourself out there again and find someone, nay, a few someones, who choose you.
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You deserve much better.
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Get rid of the bitch, move on find someone worth being with.
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I agree to move on. If you're living together, give her a month to move out. It's going to hurt now, but think of how much more it would hurt if she is really cheating on you, because it really doesn't sound too good, and excuses are almost always bullshit. Nip it in the bud before it gets worse.
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Keep tapping that ass and just find some more chicks to do as well beat her at her own game you get caught so what have your cake and eat it too I say Keep her around and start fucking her friends!
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I am sorry so sorry that you have to go through this. Anyone that has ever experienced heartbreak can understand you. I believe she may be doing this in hopes that she finds someone that she considers to be better. I am sure you want to believe this is a mistake, that it can be repaired, that it never happened at all. You can break up this relationship now and deal with some amount of pain, which will surely disappear in time, or keep going forward with this and prolong your pain.
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Take it like a man.
Stay with her & support her affairs. In fact, help her find more studs, and remember to extend a credit card so she can have fun while doing so. Every night you'll get to taste her sweet vag, which at this point should've seen more cocks than a NY stadium urinal. Why are you complaining? by the end of the day she always comes back to you, so count your blessings.
You love her - prove it - it's the least you can do.
Stay with her & support her affairs. In fact, help her find more studs, and remember to extend a credit card so she can have fun while doing so. Every night you'll get to taste her sweet vag, which at this point should've seen more cocks than a NY stadium urinal. Why are you complaining? by the end of the day she always comes back to you, so count your blessings.
You love her - prove it - it's the least you can do.
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It's messed up how fake some people can be.. Is it just me or shouldn't people have respect for people who are there for them every day? Think it's a case of being too nice? Obviously some girls become evil liars if they think a guy likes them.. let alone loves em.. I'm rethinking a LOT of things about trust & women. I don't agree or understand fake/lying/2 faced women/people, & I don't care how how great any of them might think they are, end of the day, if you can't be trusted, you're a worthless piece of shit. All I ever wanted was one good/real girl I could trust & it might be impossible.
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how many times has she dumped you now?ManOwaRrior wrote:It's messed up how fake some people can be.. Is it just me or shouldn't people have respect for people who are there for them every day? Think it's a case of being too nice? Obviously some girls become evil liars if they think a guy likes them.. let alone loves em.. I'm rethinking a LOT of things about trust & women. I don't agree or understand fake/lying/2 faced women/people, & I don't care how how great any of them might think they are, end of the day, if you can't be trusted, you're a worthless piece of shit. All I ever wanted was one good/real girl I could trust & it might be impossible.
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It's not a question of being dumped.. it's the fact that LIES are all some girls can tell.. not even being capable of telling ANY truth.. At least if you're being dumped she has the respect to be honest.. it's fake lying shit that sickens me to no end.
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Have some respect for yourself. The more you whine about how much she disrespects you, the more you disrespect yourself.
If you share a place together walk out NOW...not tomorrow.
If it's your place, kick the bitch out NOW...not tomorrow.
It also sounds like she needs a beatdown, but I don't condone violence against women. Unless it calls for it of course.
If you share a place together walk out NOW...not tomorrow.
If it's your place, kick the bitch out NOW...not tomorrow.
It also sounds like she needs a beatdown, but I don't condone violence against women. Unless it calls for it of course.
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[quote="ManOwaRrior"]Her mother in law did warn me saying she had a sick need to be wanted & needed by as many men as possible...
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That is a warning right there! That totally sucks - there's a better one for you out there dude - hang in there!
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That is a warning right there! That totally sucks - there's a better one for you out there dude - hang in there!
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Sounds like a sucky situation to say the least. I'd end this situation fast if I were you and put it behind you as quickly as possible. The happiest ending that you're gonna get out of this one is when you move on and find somebody right for you. This is obviously not the one.
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When is her birthday ?ManOwaRrior wrote: Her mother in law did warn me saying she had a sick need to be wanted & needed by as many men as possible...
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Being with someone who is unfaithful and dishonest is one of the most painful things in the world. You can't fix it. You won't fix it. Like others have said the quicker you get out the better. I wish I would've heeded the warning signs. Good luck bro!
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Consider yourself lucky you found out now, not (2.5 kids and a failed marriage) later.
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Engine13 wrote:(2.5 kids and a failed marriage).
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...we stopped at a restaurant to eat and I was wearing a Sludge shirt. Someone came up and asked me if I read the messageboard - I touched cloth for a split second and then said the shirt was my husband's and just looked at them retardedly.
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tell her to go to hell , tell her your the best thing shes ever had, tell her to get out of your life, walk away telling her shell never have anything but an empty life full of losers. Ignore her tears.
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look at crymaster, back bitching the whore he was ready to marry for the rest of his lifeTymaster wrote:Being with someone who is unfaithful and dishonest is one of the most painful things in the world. You can't fix it. You won't fix it. Like others have said the quicker you get out the better. I wish I would've heeded the warning signs. Good luck bro!
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Pfft. If you really want to see the extent of his trolling; go to the Sludge Lounge.enchantment wrote: you're a miserable loser TROLL
(He's on a rabid anti-American bender as of the moment. Funny thing is, it's been said he is an American!)
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ManOwaRrior,
Get Out Now! Nothing good will come of this relationship.
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Aaawww, since DeathCurse has been gone no one has called me Crymaster. I forgot how endearing it was!
On a serious note, I still love and miss the ex everyday, but it was a toxic relationship for me. You can't "fix" people and you can't "change" people. It was tough to cut bait but I had to. My job was jeopardized, my family and friends were nearly gone, my health was suffering. That's what toxic relationships do to people. Doesn't mean I hate Staci, in fact I pray for nothing but the best for her, but it won't be with me. Sadly, I doubt it will ever happen for her.
On a serious note, I still love and miss the ex everyday, but it was a toxic relationship for me. You can't "fix" people and you can't "change" people. It was tough to cut bait but I had to. My job was jeopardized, my family and friends were nearly gone, my health was suffering. That's what toxic relationships do to people. Doesn't mean I hate Staci, in fact I pray for nothing but the best for her, but it won't be with me. Sadly, I doubt it will ever happen for her.
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Are you seriously looking for advice? Lmao I feel for you bro but come on dump the bitch. I'm glad I was bored enough to click on the ho board to find this gem.
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What everyone else said - you have to finish it with her. A stupid, regretful one night stand is one thing, but taking the time to fill out dating profiles on at least 5 sites and sending hundreds of texts is another thing completely!
I understand where you're coming from when you talk about trust and thinking you know the person and wondering how the hell she could do this after all the time you've been together. Sucks majorly, doesn't it? No matter how much you think you know someone, it doesn't mean they won't flip and totally change. Sounds weird, but this has happened to me several times-literally, shit changes overnight.
Also, don't think back and start blaming yourself for it. Unless you beat her or were genuinely mean to her, which you probably weren't. Going over and revisiting stuff can help to an extent, but don't get caught up in it. It's over, it's her fault, take the high road and end it ASAP. Cutting all contact would be something to think about too. It's difficult, but sometimes it's the best thing.
I understand where you're coming from when you talk about trust and thinking you know the person and wondering how the hell she could do this after all the time you've been together. Sucks majorly, doesn't it? No matter how much you think you know someone, it doesn't mean they won't flip and totally change. Sounds weird, but this has happened to me several times-literally, shit changes overnight.
Also, don't think back and start blaming yourself for it. Unless you beat her or were genuinely mean to her, which you probably weren't. Going over and revisiting stuff can help to an extent, but don't get caught up in it. It's over, it's her fault, take the high road and end it ASAP. Cutting all contact would be something to think about too. It's difficult, but sometimes it's the best thing.
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She's shopping around, looking to upgrade. And I can guarantee you she's cheating. She's gonna catch an STD from one of those internet sleazes and expose u to it. Leave now and look her up a couple years from now. If this is how she is she will be completely fucked up and you'll be relieved you got out of there when you did. Can you print her ad(s) here?
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you wanna hook up, eh?frickfrack wrote:She's shopping around, looking to upgrade. And I can guarantee you she's cheating. She's gonna catch an STD from one of those internet sleazes and expose u to it. Leave now and look her up a couple years from now. If this is how she is she will be completely fucked up and you'll be relieved you got out of there when you did. Can you print her ad(s) here?
fucking slimeball!!!
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I personally would make a profile using a fake photo and arrange a date with her. No way she can deny anything when she arranges to meet this hot piece of strange and find you waiting for her.
Then take your ring back, sell it and buy a new xbox. And some beers.
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Then take your ring back, sell it and buy a new xbox. And some beers.
My heart goes out to you it really does x