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Ever dated someone that wasn't quite up to your level?

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Intellectually, that is.

I've done it a few times. Fooled myself thinking it wouldn't bother me that much. Thinking that other qualities would compensate for it. Whether it was looks or just being a really nice person, in the end I always felt like something was lacking.

It starts out small, me having to explain things that I consider pretty obvious. Initially I shrug it off but after a while it gets tiring until it reaches a point where I think it's best to throw in the towel. If I'm talking about something and it's obvious from their response they've totally missed the point, that's a pretty big turnoff.

So what about you people? What made you decide to end it? Any nasty break-ups? Embarrassing situations?
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I don't want to say "up to" my level, as that implies my being smarter/better/more intelligent. I'll definitely say not "at" my level, though.

I went out with a girl who, upon hearing a quip I made and having me explain that it was a joke, said "oh. I don't really get jokes." The fuck? You can say a joke isn't funny, but to just generally not be into humor? Fuck out of here with that.
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My wife. It's more about what she finds funny vs. my sense of humor or what she wasn't exposed to in pop culture growing up. Not a week goes by that we are talking about music, movies, tv, the 70s, and 80s, and I'll go, "Remember this" or "Did you see that". Nope. They weren't a big TV or music household growing up. I often tell her she has no funny bone. And she ALWAYS ALWAYS thinks an actor on some show is the same as another show. It never is, though they might look somewhat similar.
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TooOldToCare wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2023 10:45 am My wife. It's more about what she finds funny vs. my sense of humor or what she wasn't exposed to in pop culture growing up. Not a week goes by that we are talking about music, movies, tv, the 70s, and 80s, and I'll go, "Remember this" or "Did you see that". Nope. They weren't a big TV or music household growing up. I often tell her she has no funny bone. And she ALWAYS ALWAYS thinks an actor on some show is the same as another show. It never is, though they might look somewhat similar.
Similar. I have to explain jokes at times. Not sure that she isn't able to get them...she just doesn't like the same type of humor that I like.
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SchenkerFan wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2023 9:53 am Intellectually, that is.

I've done it a few times. Fooled myself thinking it wouldn't bother me that much. Thinking that other qualities would compensate for it. Whether it was looks or just being a really nice person, in the end I always felt like something was lacking.
Fooled myself is the right word. Looking back I always noticed things like this early on. In a couple of cases even got back together with someone I dumped thinking I overreacted. I didn't.

This also applies to some that weren't lacking intellectually but had other issues.
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Most guys have dated someone they didn't like on a personal level to get some action.
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BDG135 wrote: Wed Jul 19, 2023 11:18 am Most guys have dated someone they didn't like on a personal level to get some action.
Wonder if Helluvaguy has.
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My ex wife was pretty much a crazy, dumb bitch.
Only took me 10 yrs to figure it out.
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I only date out of my league. Every man should have this rule.

I dated one woman who was dumber than shit and she ended up almost breaking my nose by throwing a full can of beer at my face.

I dated one chick 6 or 7 years ago who was way younger than me (I think she was 22-23 and I was somewhere in my mid-to-late 30's) who I thought was kinda dumb because she smoked a lot of weed but it turns out she was just dumb.

I also know a ton of people who smoke weed and are genius-level smart so my prejudice there was shameful.
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Chip Z'Hoy wrote: Wed Jul 19, 2023 4:50 pm I thought she was kinda dumb because she smoked a lot of weed but it turns out she was just dumb.

That’s hilarious.
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VinnieVincentsVag wrote: Wed Jul 19, 2023 3:53 pm My ex wife was pretty much a crazy, dumb bitch.
She'd have to be a pretty dumb bitch to marry your fat ass, you fucking mong!

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VinnieVincentsVag wrote: Wed Jul 19, 2023 6:43 pmThat’s hilarious.
I bet the sex was good tho?
You would think, right? It was just okay.

And you'd think a young woman would make me feel young again, right? Nope. I felt twice as old.
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My high school boyfriend was suuuper dumb. Absolutely incapable of thinking ahead. He'd say and do the most embarrassing shit. Always trying to be the life of the party and making an ass out of himself. Worshipped me but I knew it was because he just didn't know better. i still got fed up and didn't treat him great. Cute, so he didn't have trouble getting girls. Keeping them though...

Then the guy I dumped him for was the exact opposite and thought he was a fucking genius. That got old too.
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Cindy Buzzedimisa wrote: Mon Jul 24, 2023 8:06 am Cute, so he didn't have trouble getting girls. Keeping them though...
Replace "girls" with "guys" and you have my gf from 1990.

She also has trouble keeping jobs.

But she can brag that David Coverdale hit on her once and she turned him down. Probably the high point in her life.
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Used to sleep with a guy who, amongst other things, used to say ‘Pacific’ rather than ‘specific’.
I also couldn’t quote Spinal Tap/The Office around him, as it’d just go over his head.
He didn’t last long (literally).
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drops_of_jupiter wrote: Wed Aug 16, 2023 2:12 pm Used to sleep with a guy who, amongst other things, used to say ‘Pacific’ rather than ‘specific’.
I also couldn’t quote Spinal Tap/The Office around him, as it’d just go over his head.
He didn’t last long (literally).
Sorry he was a moron and couldn't satisfy you.

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DemonFilth2001 wrote: Wed Aug 16, 2023 4:38 pm
drops_of_jupiter wrote: Wed Aug 16, 2023 2:12 pm Used to sleep with a guy who, amongst other things, used to say ‘Pacific’ rather than ‘specific’.
I also couldn’t quote Spinal Tap/The Office around him, as it’d just go over his head.
He didn’t last long (literally).
Sorry he was a moron and couldn't satisfy you.

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DemonFilth2001 wrote: Wed Aug 16, 2023 4:38 pm
drops_of_jupiter wrote: Wed Aug 16, 2023 2:12 pm Used to sleep with a guy who, amongst other things, used to say ‘Pacific’ rather than ‘specific’.
I also couldn’t quote Spinal Tap/The Office around him, as it’d just go over his head.
He didn’t last long (literally).
Sorry he was a moron and couldn't satisfy you.

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Love_Industry wrote: Tue Jul 25, 2023 3:52 am
Cindy Buzzedimisa wrote: Mon Jul 24, 2023 8:06 am Cute, so he didn't have trouble getting girls. Keeping them though...
Replace "girls" with "guys" and you have my gf from 1990.

She also has trouble keeping jobs.

But she can brag that David Coverdale hit on her once and she turned him down. Probably the high point in her life.
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Looking back, in high school, I wasn't cool.

I wasn't up to their level
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Olivia Sophia wrote: Thu Nov 23, 2023 4:37 pm Looking back, in high school, I wasn't cool.

I wasn't up to their level
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SchenkerFan wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2023 9:53 am Intellectually, that is.

I've done it a few times. Fooled myself thinking it wouldn't bother me that much. Thinking that other qualities would compensate for it. Whether it was looks or just being a really nice person, in the end I always felt like something was lacking.

It starts out small, me having to explain things that I consider pretty obvious. Initially I shrug it off but after a while it gets tiring until it reaches a point where I think it's best to throw in the towel. If I'm talking about something and it's obvious from their response they've totally missed the point, that's a pretty big turnoff.

So what about you people? What made you decide to end it? Any nasty break-ups? Embarrassing situations?
Wouldn't say it was "dating" with your mum, exactly...
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MurrayFiend wrote: Fri Dec 01, 2023 3:21 pm
SchenkerFan wrote: Tue Jul 18, 2023 9:53 am Intellectually, that is.

I've done it a few times. Fooled myself thinking it wouldn't bother me that much. Thinking that other qualities would compensate for it. Whether it was looks or just being a really nice person, in the end I always felt like something was lacking.

It starts out small, me having to explain things that I consider pretty obvious. Initially I shrug it off but after a while it gets tiring until it reaches a point where I think it's best to throw in the towel. If I'm talking about something and it's obvious from their response they've totally missed the point, that's a pretty big turnoff.

So what about you people? What made you decide to end it? Any nasty break-ups? Embarrassing situations?
Wouldn't say it was "dating" with your mum, exactly...
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Never
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LAglamrocker wrote: Sun Dec 03, 2023 12:33 pmNever
That should hardly surprise anyone, the bar isn't too high in your case.
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