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Got one granddaughter who’s almost two. We babysit every other Sunday for 12 freaking hours while mom and dad work. Half my weekend. She’s here other times for less.

I hate it. I raised four kids who are on their own and don’t want to do it again. I love her but hate the arrangement.

My definition of grandparenting is a few hours of fun here and there then back to mom and dad.

Yeah, guess I’m a dick.

Edit: technically a step-granddaughter but we don’t differentiate.

Then set the boundaries man. It’s your house and your time. Learn to say no.

ParaDime77 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 2:28 pm Then set the boundaries man. It’s your house and your time. Learn to say no.

I agree. But since it isn’t my bio-grandkid and my wife agreed to it (without discussing with me) bc her daughter and son in law don’t have childcare on Sunday, this is what it became.

It’s been hell being stuck inside during the winter. When we can get out after nice weather starts, I might have a new pov.

Grandparents are supposed to spoil their grandkids. I’m grateful mine are still around and I will do anything for them.

So grateful to have them. Spoiler the hell out of me growing up. I now take care of all of their bills and whatever they need.

MattleyCrue wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 3:16 pm Grandparents are supposed to spoil their grandkids. I’m grateful mine are still around and I will do anything for them.

So grateful to have them. Spoiler the hell out of me growing up. I now take care of all of their bills and whatever they need.

I don’t mind spoiling. In fact, I love it.

Grinding out 12 hours of feedings, diaper changes, is work. Spoiling is taking them toy shopping, the playground, ice cream, and not an “all waking hours” thing by my definition. Spoiling is the fun part.

My parents did not have to parent my kids. They would spoil, do an occasional movie night/spend the night. But they were never the default childcare.

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 2:32 pm

ParaDime77 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 2:28 pm Then set the boundaries man. It’s your house and your time. Learn to say no.

I agree. But since it isn’t my bio-grandkid and my wife agreed to it (without discussing with me)

Sounds like it’s her job now! Send her pictures of you doing fun stuff like going to WWE events or seeing Acoustic Trixter, or getting a new tattoo and tell her she could be there too.

Nate S Axel wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 9:48 pm

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 2:32 pm

ParaDime77 wrote: ↑Sun Mar 23, 2025 2:28 pm Then set the boundaries man. It’s your house and your time. Learn to say no.

I agree. But since it isn’t my bio-grandkid and my wife agreed to it (without discussing with me)

Sounds like it’s her job now! Send her pictures of you doing fun stuff like going to WWE events or seeing Acoustic Trixter, or getting a new tattoo and tell her she could be there too.

I knew I could depend on this place.

Hell yeah. You know Mattley's grandparents will never want for ASHABAwear or a sick new Bang Tango vintage T while they are still with us. He's paying it back.

HueyRamone wrote: ↑Mon Mar 24, 2025 8:06 am Hell yeah. You know Mattley's grandparents will never want for ASHABAwear or a sick new Bang Tango vintage T while they are still with us. He's paying it back.

What about the Chrome Hearts?

Ha ha BEST
The Hell will never end
Who wanted Homer Simpson or Al Bundy life? Ya should have listened
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Seems like Uncle is best life choice ever..fun calendar never ending- what’s stress?
Sometimes I take care of a dog(paid) then I plan for Survivor Series in San Diego

Why do they work for 12 fucking hours on a Sunday? Do they take the rest of the week off?

jens wrote: ↑Fri Mar 28, 2025 1:19 am Why do they work for 12 fucking hours on a Sunday? Do they take the rest of the week off?

One works 4 12s at a hospital ICU, and the other works IT support for a 24x7 outfit (3 12s). Sunday is the only day they both work at the same time. Yeah, their "weekends" are mid-week.

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Fri Mar 28, 2025 4:08 am

jens wrote: ↑Fri Mar 28, 2025 1:19 am Why do they work for 12 fucking hours on a Sunday? Do they take the rest of the week off?

One works 4 12s at a hospital ICU, and the other works IT support for a 24x7 outfit (3 12s). Sunday is the only day they both work at the same time. Yeah, their "weekends" are mid-week.

Damn, that's rough.
No other grandparents to share the responsibilities? A whole day with a 2-year-old is hard work.

jens wrote: ↑Fri Mar 28, 2025 7:16 am

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Fri Mar 28, 2025 4:08 am

jens wrote: ↑Fri Mar 28, 2025 1:19 am Why do they work for 12 fucking hours on a Sunday? Do they take the rest of the week off?

One works 4 12s at a hospital ICU, and the other works IT support for a 24x7 outfit (3 12s). Sunday is the only day they both work at the same time. Yeah, their "weekends" are mid-week.

Damn, that's rough.
No other grandparents to share the responsibilities? A whole day with a 2-year-old is hard work.

They moved to Florida. It will be better when we finally get out of the house in warmer weather. The 6:30am wakeup call on Sunday morning is painful for this old man.

My grandson is just 13 months old, but they have never asked me to babysit. My daughter calls on her younger sister to do that, who is only too happy!
But yeah, every Sunday? That's a lot!
I would certainly do it if my daughter needed me to, but I'd probably feel much like you about it.

Yeah. It’s hard work. Don’t know how I did it with my kids. Guess being 30 makes a difference. At 58, all I think about is doing what I want, when I want.

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Sun Mar 30, 2025 4:53 pm Yeah. It’s hard work. Don’t know how I did it with my kids. Guess being 30 makes a difference. At 58, all I think about is doing what I want, when I want.

Make your wife do the first 8 hours of it, and then take over the rest for mandatory training with the kid on how Winger's guitarists didnt really play the solos on the first album, and how Bert faked his injuries for likes and attention.

This shit aint hard.

all I think about is doing what I want, when I want
^ not everyone can have HueyRamone lifestyle

Tattoos & Misery is life we all have, it’s almost over anyway

LAglamrocker wrote: ↑Sun Mar 30, 2025 8:03 pm all I think about is doing what I want, when I want
^ not everyone can have HueyRamone lifestyle

Tattoos & Misery is life we all have, it’s almost over anyway

Yeah, you know your shit.

You solve these grandparenting problems by not being a parent in the first place. Easy peazy.

I will admit I was in a dark time in my life in 2006
I was lost -confused about to give up on life- settle have the wife(female) and go kid route . The bitch probably wouldn’t even allow to name the kid “Warrior” boy or girl.
But at Key Club that night some tribute band singer gave shoutout to LAglamrocker.
I looked saw his happiness and seemed to have lifestyle I wanted - kind of like Firehouse in 1993
I remember walking back to my awesome new black Charger and thinking “f*ck it I want that dudes lifestyle “
If it wasn’t for that moment ..I can’t imagine the hell my life would be…fast forward to Sunday April 13 2025..I’m not home taking care of brat that dreams of being on Only Fans while I babysit some brat and miss Rainbow Bash on this day with Fasterpussy Cat and Odin

Gets better when they get older and you can go out and actually do things. Also once they hit a certain age...like 6, or 7, they mostly want to be on their devices (iPad or whatever) or playing Roblox.

Have grandkids into softball, so it's fun to go to the games and watch them play. Just enjoy the ride.

Guitarmageddon_VI wrote: ↑Tue Apr 01, 2025 4:46 am Gets better when they get older and you can go out and actually do things. Also once they hit a certain age...like 6, or 7, they mostly want to be on their devices (iPad or whatever) or playing Roblox.

Have grandkids into softball, so it's fun to go to the games and watch them play. Just enjoy the ride.

That's the part I'm looking forward to. She'll be 2 in June, so she has no attention span. Her mom said she LOVES Play-Doh. I bought a bunch, and that lasted about 15 minutes. Have a ton of toys. 5 min per toy is the current threshold.

Any teenage girls in the neighborhood you can throw a few bucks at to play with her for the afternoon and tire her out? That'll help a lot. Me and the other neighborhood girls used to do this all the time when we were middle\high school. We'd keep the toddler out of their parent's hair for a few hours and it was fun for us. Teenage girls love cute little kids. Ask your neighbors if they have any daughters or nieces that would be interested.

Cindy Buzzedimisa wrote: ↑Fri May 16, 2025 5:57 am Any teenage girls in the neighborhood you can throw a few bucks at to play with her for the afternoon and tire her out? That'll help a lot. Me and the other neighborhood girls used to do this all the time when we were middle\high school. We'd keep the toddler out of their parent's hair for a few hours and it was fun for us. Teenage girls love cute little kids. Ask your neighbors if they have any daughters or nieces that would be interested.

My granddaughter (then 2.5) was a HUGE hit with my niece (13) and my nephew's girlfriend (16) last summer. They played games with her all afternoon. I was surprised that they weren't getting bored, but they all loved it. Unfortunately they live too far away from each other for it to be more than a very occasional thing

Cindy Buzzedimisa wrote: ↑Fri May 16, 2025 5:57 am Any teenage girls in the neighborhood you can throw a few bucks at to play with her for the afternoon and tire her out? That'll help a lot. Me and the other neighborhood girls used to do this all the time when we were middle\high school. We'd keep the toddler out of their parent's hair for a few hours and it was fun for us. Teenage girls love cute little kids. Ask your neighbors if they have any daughters or nieces that would be interested.

No. And I'm sure my wife (her biological grandma) wouldn't hear of it. Now that the weather is nicer, we should be able to mix it up and do some outside things. Playgrounds, and whatever else 2-year-olds do. We no longer have toddler playthings at our house, now that our own kids have grown up and flown the coop.

Got a new one. Mom is part of a wedding party who had a girls weekend through this Sunday. Dad is at home. We have the granddaughter until Sunday. I had no voice in it. It was a done deal without my input. Dad has a job, but when my kids were 2, if something like this came up, I’d have taken a day or two of vacation to be a parent. Wtf is wrong with these 30-ish year old parents? Dad gets free time while GMA and gpa give up 3 days and nights.

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Thu Jul 17, 2025 6:12 pm Got a new one. Mom is part of a wedding party who had a girls weekend through this Sunday. Dad is at home. We have the granddaughter until Sunday. I had no voice in it. It was a done deal without my input. Dad has a job, but when my kids were 2, if something like this came up, I’d have taken a day or two of vacation to be a parent. Wtf is wrong with these 30-ish year old parents? Dad gets free time while GMA and gpa give up 3 days and nights.

Yer putting it on the dad, when it's actually your wife who is enabling it and signing you up for it without consulting you.

If your wife and the mom already decided it was a done deal, why wouldnt the dad just say "ok, gramma wants em, and I got to work anyway, this is a big help"

HueyRamone wrote: ↑Thu Jul 17, 2025 8:07 pm

Hatchets Molly wrote: ↑Thu Jul 17, 2025 6:12 pm Got a new one. Mom is part of a wedding party who had a girls weekend through this Sunday. Dad is at home. We have the granddaughter until Sunday. I had no voice in it. It was a done deal without my input. Dad has a job, but when my kids were 2, if something like this came up, I’d have taken a day or two of vacation to be a parent. Wtf is wrong with these 30-ish year old parents? Dad gets free time while GMA and gpa give up 3 days and nights.

Yer putting it on the dad, when it's actually your wife who is enabling it and signing you up for it without consulting you.

If your wife and the mom already decided it was a done deal, why wouldnt the dad just say "ok, gramma wants em, and I got to work anyway, this is a big help"

I'll put it on all three of em.

Grandpa has been put in 3 day timeout!!!
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